Navigating Giving with an Unbelieving Spouse with Ron Blue | FaithFi
February 3, 2025
Navigating Giving with an Unbelieving Spouse with Ron Blue
Faith & Finance with Rob West
You want to give generously to your church, but your non-believing spouse objects. What do you do?
We occasionally get that question, and it’s a situation that must be handled with care. If you or someone you know is in that position, don’t miss today’s program, as Ron Blue is here with some sage advice.
Ron Blue is the co-founder of Kingdom Advisors and the author of many books on biblical finance, most notably “Master Your Money: A Step-by-Step Plan for Experiencing Financial Contentment.”
You want to give generously to your church, but your non-believing spouse objects. What do you do?
We occasionally get that question, and it’s a situation that must be handled with care. If you or someone you know is in that position, don’t miss today’s program, as Ron Blue is here with some sage advice.
Marriage is more important than money. While generosity is an important biblical value, unity in marriage takes precedence.
Submission and honor in marriage matter. Ephesians 5:21 reminds us to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ,” emphasizing mutual respect in financial decisions. Likewise, Matthew 19:6 affirms that a husband and wife “are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Ultimately, financial decisions—including giving—should be made together, with mutual understanding and agreement.
Ron’s Personal Story: When His Wife Wanted to Tithe
Ron has firsthand experience with this issue. When his wife, Judy, became a Christian, she wanted to tithe. But at the time, Ron was not a believer and giving was the last thing on his mind.
Instead of forcing the issue, Judy decided to remain silent about it for two years. However, she lived a transformed life, which was compelling to Ron. Her quiet witness ultimately softened his heart and led him to faith in Christ.
This aligns with the biblical wisdom of 1 Peter 3:1-2, which encourages wives to live in such a way that they may win their husbands to Christ “without a word, by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.”
Judy’s patient, godly approach allowed Ron to come to faith in his own time, and ultimately, they found joy in giving together.
Building Unity in Giving as a Couple
Once Ron became a Christian, he and Judy intentionally set aside time to align their financial goals—including giving. Twice a year, they would take a weekend away to pray, discuss their finances, and determine their giving goals.
Ron’s perspective on giving is clear:
The tithe is a starting point. Giving should go beyond the tithe, as generosity is a way to break the grip of money on our hearts.
Giving should be joyful and unified. When spouses give together in agreement, it becomes a source of great joy.
As Ron says, “The only way you can break the power of money is to give.”
Practical Steps for Couples Navigating Giving Disagreements
If you and your spouse are struggling to agree on giving, consider these steps:
Prioritize your marriage. Remember, God values unity in your relationship more than any specific financial contribution.
Listen openly. Take time to truly hear your spouse’s concerns and seek to understand their perspective.
Share why giving is important to you. Explain what generosity means to you personally and spiritually.
Find a giving framework you both can support. This might mean starting small, gradually increasing giving over time, or designating funds for causes you both agree on.
At the end of the day, God doesn’t need our money—He wants our hearts. And He wants our marriages to reflect His love and unity. If you and your spouse are wrestling with this issue, focus first on fostering understanding and alignment. When you give together with a joyful heart, the blessing is even greater.
If you’d like to read more on this topic, Ron Blue’s full article on this subject is featured in our new quarterly publication, Faithful Steward. To receive it in your mailbox every quarter, become a FaithFi Partner at $35 a month or $400 annually at FaithFi.com/give.
On Today’s Program, Rob Answers Listener Questions:
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