When you want pithy quotes, check out social media. When you want words of truth, look to the Bible. But be careful not to get those two mixed up.
Some familiar sayings may sound like Bible verses, but they’re really not. Of all the Bible verses that aren’t actually in the Bible, here’s the most familiar one: __“God won’t give you more than you can handle.” __This sounds great, especially if you’re struggling with financial hardship. Unfortunately, it’s not true. The fact is, life is always more than we can handle without God. After all, we need his help just to take our next breath!
The idea that “God won’t give you more than you can handle” is a misreading of 1 Corinthians 10:13, which actually says, “God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” The good news is that God’s faithfulness provides us a way to endure temptation— not necessarily avoid it.
Maybe you heard your grandma say this when you refused to do your chores, __"God helps those who help themselves.” __Again, it might seem like something from the Bible, but it’s not. In fact, it’s the opposite of what God’s word says, which is that our help comes from one place. Psalm 121:2 says, "My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.” It’s not “God plus me getting the job done.”
God’s help is never contingent on what you or I do. There’s nothing we can do even to earn God’s help. But, again, the good news from the Bible is that “…God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” God’s help is always available, not because we do our chores, but because He loves us despite our brokenness.
Have you ever been disappointed and someone told you*, “If God closes a door, He’ll open a window”? Besides letting the bugs in, what is that really saying? Does God always resolve your problems immediately? That’s not always the case, is it? Sometimes, God closes a door, and we have to wait with the doors and the windows firmly shut.
The Bible does promise that God will keep us headed in the right direction, when we follow him with all our heart. Psalm 32:8 says: “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you.” But the “way you should go” doesn’t necessarily mean God will make an escape hatch when you don’t seem to be making progress. You’ll find that God often does some of His best work as you wait, teaching you to trust Him even more. Psalm 37:7 says*, “Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.”*
Our next quote is, __“To thine own self be true.” That might sound like scripture, but it’s really from Shakespeare’s play, Hamlet. It’s also completely unbiblical. “To thine own self be true” suggests that all you need for success is to follow your own instincts and desires. Unfortunately, it’s our own instincts and desires that cause us to sin. Self-reliance is no substitute for reliance on Jesus. He is the source of truth and the only one we can truly rely on.
Another unbiblical piece of advice is, “Follow your heart.” Jeremiah 17:9 says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” In light of that truth, following your heart seems like a really bad idea.
Biblestudytools.com puts it this way: ‘God gives us passions and desires and uses our lives to prepare us for His purposes, just as He prepared David during his time as a shepherd, soldier, and court musician. But that only works if we completely surrender our lives to His leading.
The last “not-in-the-Bible” quote is, “Let go and let God.” The problem is this might encourage a passive approach to problem-solving. While faith and trust in God are crucial, the Bible also teaches the importance of taking action and using the resources and wisdom God provides to address issues. As J. I. Packer once put it, “The Christian’s motto should not be ‘Let go and let God’ but ‘Trust God and get going.’”
The bottom line is if you’re a follower of Jesus, you can always trust his provision and rest in his peace, even in the middle of challenging circumstances.
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